On any given day you can find a list of do’s, don’ts, and best practices for online dating.
But there’s really only one rule or tip you need to remember, above all others: keep you expectations very low, and don’t be disappointed.
That doesn’t mean you should be “meh” upon meeting someone, or not look forward to meeting someone. Enjoy the process…consider it always a good thing to meet someone new, in any context, and its always good to learn something new, too.
But when it comes to the expectations of romance, because the vibe you think you’re getting based on some texts or emails via that dating app might lead to a blossoming relationship…well, I hate to sound defeatist, but the odds are good that it won’t. So don’t be disappointed by that. Rather, have zero expectations about the outcome – don’t get your hopes up. Don’t put that kind of pressure on yourself. Especially if you’ve had a slew of dates that didn’t go beyond a first or even second date. If you’re both not feeling it, or if one you is feeling it, and the other isn’t, don’t force it.
I’ve learned that there’s a lot to be said about chemistry.
It’s been a long time since I really felt that little buzz when there’s great chemistry, and I’ve been on a pretty lengthy streak where I just don’t “feel it.” It’s been long enough of a streak where there have been times I think I ‘m just not able to feel that way any longer, but I also realize because I have before, I’m capable of feeling that way again. You know that feeling: midway thru the date you find yourself thinking, “I am having a great time with this person” and the next morning you’re thinking about your date and looking forward to a second date.
I still believe that little chubby baby with the diaper will hit me with an arrow; I’m just fine if its going to take awhile longer. I’m find and I accept that (finally) because I just don’t get my hopes up ahead of every single date, and I just don’t get disappointed any longer.